So I got a call from Mark about two weeks ago. He called me and we spoke for about 45 minutes. He called to apologize.
What?
Yeah, I couldn’t believe it either. When my phone rang, I had him saved as “Piece of Shit.” So as it’s ringing, I thought to myself “this ought to be good.” And I picked up.
What followed was what really seemed like a man who is completely broken. He was quiet, humble, reserved. Far from the proud, cheating dickhead, I met back in Crossfit. He apologized to me. He said he was sorry for what he’d done to my children and for the harm that they’ve had to face. He apologized for the future emotional damage they may have to face.
He said that he works to support Carrie and his four kids and that two of his children haven’t spoken to him in over a year. I remember writing about the monetary costs he would have to face for getting a little side pussy from Allie. But he may have to face a lifelong cost of the loss of his relationship with his kids. He didn’t express how his relationship was with the other two. However, from my experience, kids either outright reject this kind of behavior or they cling to the errant parent almost in hopes that the parent will change back. Like their love will overwhelm the parent and change them into a decent human.
Mark is paying a HUGE price for being unfaithful to his wife of 20 years. A price that I would never want to pay. It’s also a foreshadowing of Allie’s future. I am already seeing and hearing little things that one of my sons says about her. I can easily see a time in the future where he rejects his mom completely. Perhaps my other sons will too.
While I don’t say negative things about their mom in front of them, I will tell them facts about her if they ask. So later, if they ask about her affairs, I will tell them. Of course, I don’t have to tell them that she had them. She confessed the affair with Mark in front of them and has since “apologized” to them about the affairs in her desperate attempt to get attention.